People who are divorced have learned a few things about this life-altering event. Many people will offer their advice on the matter, even if you haven’t asked for it. Should you listen to this advice?
While you should ignore all of your friends when they are trying to tell you a thing or two about divorce, you have to remember that your relationship was different from anyone else’s. Perhaps you don’t have any children, so listening to how you can beat your soon-to-be ex-spouse at keeping custody of your pet is really not applicable. However, it goes much deeper than that.
Your financial situation may be much different. Your friend may have had to fight over alimony, but the two of you can agree that no alimony is needed. You may find that mediation is the right choice for you, even though your friend spent a year fighting it out in court.
Your family will also have some advice. Maybe your mom just wants you two to get through the divorce as quickly as possible, but you know that you have to fight to get your share of the marital assets.
No one else will have the exact same dynamics as your relationship or how those dynamics will affect your divorce. One good place to seek advice is from your attorney. He or she will have your best interests at heart and will work to ensure you get your fair share. So remember, while your friends and family may all have advice they want you take about your divorce, take it with a grain of salt and remember that your divorce is different from anyone else’s.
Source: Huffington Post, “The Truth About Divorce Advice,” Bill Flanigin, accessed June 26, 2017