Divorce has a tendency to upend a person’s life. Most researchers say that 40 to 50 percent of married people will get divorced. While it can be easy to focus on what you want from the divorce or how to “stick it” to your soon-to-be ex-spouse, there are three things that should be remembered.
— Don’t drag the kids into it more than they already are. Children are used as pawns in divorces far too often. From delivering messages to the other parent to listening as you rant about what your ex has done to you, these behaviors are not healthy for your children. Keep the separation and divorce process as civil as possible, if only for the sake of your children.
— Know the laws regarding divorce in the state of New York. You don’t have to be an attorney to understand the divorce process. For example, some states require parenting classes or mediation before a court can grant a divorce. Understanding how the process works can help you avoid surprises during this difficult time.
— Own your part in the divorce. This can be difficult to do, especially if you are dealing with many different emotions. Most people, though, will admit that they had a role in the breakdown of the marriage.
Divorce can be truly difficult on all parties involved. An experienced family law attorney can help you prepare for what lies ahead, including what the law states about child custody and support, alimony and property division. The old adage of “knowledge is power” is true.
Source: Huffington Post, “7 Things To Remember if You Are Going Through a Divorce,” Carol Morgan, Dec. 27, 2015